an increasing number of respected psychological associations worldwide denounce “therapies” aimed at “changing” an individual’s sexual orientation. one of their reasons: sexual orientation is not able to be changed. practices developed to achieve “change” normally involve an element of disgust toward anything outside heteronormativity. due to such an extreme bias, the “therapy” is tainted, placing it permanently outside professional therapeutic standards.
I remember swimming in my aunt's above ground pool as a child - I swam around the edge because the middle was deep, unknown, and unsafe. or so I thought. the pool was safe, its bottom even all the way across - but that did not change that it was unknown. I disregarded my experience in pools with deep ends, in lakes, in the ocean; this pool's middle was unsafe because I had not explored it.
let the pieces drift in from the sea
one day they will make sense -
the key piece will arrive and click,
the picture will come together,
you will know.
then you can build the puzzle,
from the pieces that have always been there,
leaving room for the pieces that have yet to be.
for this is your identity,
you are becoming more you,
may you never stop being you.