Jordan selected trays of red flowers from the shop’s garden display - Avery had discovered the need for two more in the midst of planting. children’s voices floated from the school playground across the street; Jordan smiled at the joy warmer spring days brought.
inside the shop, Jordan waited in line to pay, attempted to resist the cute chocolate eggs with toys inside, then, resistance failing, selected two, knowing Avery’s good-natured teasing would only last temporarily. plus, Jordan was bringing the flowers.
“more bad news,” said the person in the front of the line, motioning to a newspaper. “soon it’ll be just like that here.”
Jordan glanced at the headline and remained quiet. news certainly made the two countries seem quite alike, but eighteen years lived experience in one, and over a decade in the other, made Jordan aware of many subtle yet important distinctions.
when you were growing up, how many people in leadership roles looked like you? how many characters in books, television, or in movies, were like you? did you feel like you could become a leader, an actor, or that you would ever see your life experience represented in a book? true - inspiration can be found in someone who looks different than you, or has a different life experience from yours - but: do accurate portrayals of people similar to you exist?
it is easy for some people to say yes to all of these; they have grown up feeling represented everywhere. if they happened to disagree with one leader that looked like them, there was another leader that looked the same, but with different policies, to take their place. characters and actors in television and movies looked like them, and it was fairly easy to find someone that aligned with their life experience in literature.
an increasing number of respected psychological associations worldwide denounce “therapies” aimed at “changing” an individual’s sexual orientation. one of their reasons: sexual orientation is not able to be changed. practices developed to achieve “change” normally involve an element of disgust toward anything outside heteronormativity. due to such an extreme bias, the “therapy” is tainted, placing it permanently outside professional therapeutic standards.