General Resources
- Beauty After Bruises - PA, U.S. - "We are dedicated to providing survivors of childhood trauma with both access and funding to receive therapy and/or inpatient care - while creating professional and public awareness for Complex PTSD and Dissociative Disorders."
- Kids Help Phone - "Canada’s only 24/7 e-mental health service offering free, confidential support to young people in English and French."
- Klinic Community Health - MB, Canada - "Provides a full range of health related services from medical care to counselling and education."
- LGBT Foundation - Manchester, U.K. - "We are a national charity with LGBTQ+ health and wellbeing at the heart of everything we do. We celebrate and empower LGBTQ+ individuals and our diverse communities to realise their full potential, every day."
- Nicole Sylvia Javorsky - NY, U.S. - "Nicole's art, music, and writing reflect her own story, healing process, and grief while extrapolating from nature, research, and observations on everyday life."
- Yogini Melbourne - Melbourne, Australia - "We were inspired to create free, high quality online classes to allow people of all experience levels to explore the practices of yoga and mindfulness."
Further Information
What Is Intimate Partner Abuse/Violence?
Intimate Partner Abuse/Violence "refers to multiple forms of harm caused by a current or former intimate partner or spouse." - from the Government of Canada's "Fact Sheet: Intimate partner violence"
Abuse in relationships happens when a person inflicts [harm, such as:] physical, emotional and / or sexual harm upon their partner(s). You may be navigating this if you have experienced any form of abusive behaviour within an intimate relationship. Abuse in relationships can affect anyone regardless of gender identity, sexual orientation, race, ethnicity, age or any other trait. It can also affect people outside of the relationship including friends, family and / or others who are close to a partner.
… [Abusive behaviour in an intimate relationship] often begins with emotional abuse and may escalate to include other types of abuse. It can start small with infrequent / low impact situations and expand over time to include more frequent / harmful situations that have greater impacts on various areas of a partner’s life.
What is Sexual Assault?
Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual act done by one person or a group of people toward another that violates their sexual integrity (personal morals / boundaries / autonomy). Sexual assault is never OK, and if it happens to you, it’s not your fault.
… A person may be a victim-survivor of sexual assault if they’ve been involved in any type of sexual activity without giving their permission or saying it’s OK (otherwise known as giving consent). This includes any unwanted / forced touching of a sexual nature such as kissing, fondling, oral sex or intercourse.
Sexual assault is an act of sexual violence...committed by a person or people in order to feel power over another person. It can appear differently depending on the situation.
... Sexual assault includes sexual touching of your own or another person’s body of any kind that’s unwanted or forced, including kissing or groping.
If you feel forced to have oral, vaginal and / or anal intercourse or any other type of sexual activity against your will or without your consent, it is sexual assault.
Someone close to you, such as a classmate, neighbour, friend or even a partner within a dating relationship, can commit sexual assault.
... Sexual assault of any type can be a traumatic experience, even if you’re able to get away from the attacker / attackers.
… Sexual assault isn’t always violent. If you say no or don’t say anything at all, and the person continues, it’s sexual assault because you never gave your permission. This is true even if you don’t resist.
Sexual assault isn’t always about sex. Sex without consent is an act of violence and aggression. It’s about power and control, and not about things like love, respect, etc. Someone who cares about you will not force you to do anything sexual without your permission.
What is Consent?
Consent is defined as a voluntary agreement to do something. When it comes to sex (e.g. mutual masturbation, oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, sexting, other intimate contact, etc.), it’s important for everyone involved to give/receive enthusiastic consent. Enthusiastic consent means everyone is into what’s happening, and shows they’re ready through words and actions. Establishing enthusiastic consent before and throughout sexual activity means everyone is on the same page and having fun together. Remember, if consent is not given by everyone involved, it’s sexual violence.
During sexual activity, everyone present must agree willingly to everything that’s happening as you go.
… Here’s what enthusiastic consent looks like:
… each person wants to do each activity and is actively participating
… each person asks for consent to do each activity
… each person gives consent through words and actions
It’s important to remember things like silence or a nod are not enough to establish consent.
It is not consensual if a person:
… is intimidated, pressured, threatened or coerced
Keep in mind that:
… saying “yes” to one thing doesn’t imply “yes” to something else
… if you move on to something else, each person needs to consent again
… pressuring someone to change their mind is not consent
