TMR 8: Of An Asymmetrical Nature

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We have likely heard the saying: "perfect is the enemy of good". Yet, I know I'm one of many who still try toward perfection at times. A comforting reminder that perfection, even symmetry, is unnecessary to perhaps even wasteful, can be found in nature. From wobbly kittens learning to walk to the Fibonacci sequence on display in shells and sunflowers, we are drawn to the beauty of imperfection.

Even the simple task of drawing a circle by hand reminds us that symmetry isn't easy or natural to achieve. We also enjoy narratives centring on imperfect characters that seem relatable and down-to-earth. And our favourite mentors and leaders tend to have demonstrated their flaws alongside their strengths. Perfection is not just a myth, it is something we tend to say we want but don't often find the most attractive.

I think the healthiest position is one of balance; if perfectionist tendencies are on one side and preservation tendencies on the other, to aim somewhere between the two. I naturally reflect and seek out progress, so I hesitate to stay in preservation mode, seeing it as stagnation. Yet my creativity, compassion, and self-care efforts quickly deplete when I spend too long trying to attain some form of perfection. Becoming less demanding of myself can leave me more room for creativity, fun, and growth.

​Learning is not possible without making mistakes, so perfectionistic ways are working against learning and growth. Yes, fearing failure can make us seek comfort, but over-striving can burn us out. I don't love looking at a night sky scattered with stars because it is symmetrical, evenly aligned, or without flaw. I love it because it makes me feel inspired, hopeful, and alive. I want to make an effort to seek out balance towards goodness to help me feel more deeply me.

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